Does A Course in Miracles Teach That I Require a Holy Relationship in Order to Awaken?

I do want to ask you in what A Course in Miracles means by Holy Relationship. In a single part of the book it covers “entering the ark” together, and it almost sounds as though you’ll need one other specific person to be able to awaken. Therefore, I think I approach each new person with the expectation that maybe THIS could possibly be the connection that reflects enlightenment to me, and I in their mind! Am I taking this too literally? Or do you really need another to assist you awaken?

I appreciate your time so much and thanks for your help to me and others. I thanks and I thank God for you. Namaste.

David Hoffmeister: Thanks for your openness and your willingness to check deeply at what is underneath these topics and issues acim videos. A Course in Miracles teaches that the split mind contains both the problem (the ego) and the Solution (the Holy Spirit). When they are brought together, only One remains.

The body and the world are always the focus of ego’s perspective, for it seeks to make real problems and struggles in the world and to prevent the inner Healing Correction of the Holy Spirit. The ego’s distorted world is the merchandise of identity confusion, an outpicturing of the belief that it is possible to make an identity which God didn’t create. The ego is this identity problem and it was Answered or forgiven by the Holy Spirit the instant it appeared to arise. That one problem could possibly be described being an authority problem or a confusion in who is the author of Reality. Your head that believes in the truth of the time-space cosmos has a control issue, for it believes that it can make itself. This ego mind also thinks it’s in competition with God, although that is pushed out of conscious awareness. This unconscious ego thought system is exposed in the A Course in Miracles Workbook lessons, and Lesson 13 contains an excellent example with this unveiling:

“A meaningless world engenders fear because I think I am in competition with God.”

This really is the beginning of training your head to forgive, for the focus is cut back to your head, back once again to thinking, and taken away from your body and the world. Anorexia, weight issues, body image issues, and interpersonal relationship issues are examples of projection, of seeing the problem where it’s not: in the world. Your head cannot tolerate the belief in a battle with God, and this belief is pushed out of awareness. The deep-seated control issue this type of belief entails is then projected to your body and the world. Weight control, like any attempt to regulate the script or your body, is an endeavor to regulate the past. The Holy Spirit teaches that the past can only just be forgiven or released or seen as false—not fixed or controlled or changed.

Exactly the same ego dynamic is underneath interpersonal relationship struggles of power and control, of wanting to correct or change a person or a self-image. Personal relationships may seem to sail happily along for awhile, yet the make-believe self-concept IS the non-public perspective and thus is obviously on shaky ground. Decisions are continuous. The Holy Spirit is just a decision. The ego is just a decision. Atonement is your choice that ends all decisions, an acceptance of the changelessness of Mind. The ego is your choice to think that your head may be separate from God. Once your head believed that it had separated and built this time-space world, this time-space world of bodies became its substitute identity, because it believed it’d thrown away the Kingdom of Heaven. The world was created up as an alternative identity. The sleeping mind is split on your choice of identity. The Holy Spirit says, “This world isn’t Identity. This world is definitely an illusion.” And thus the Holy Spirit reminds your head constantly, “This world isn’t your Home. This world isn’t your Identity. This world isn’t real.” While the mind is split it’s hearing another voice (the ego) that’s saying: “You’ve done it. You’ve separated from God. You’d better make the most effective of it and find something of the world to recognize with. You are able to never return back for God will punish you.”

Thought-form associations seem to become substitute identity. The ego mind appears to be identified with your body, with family, with environments that seem to surround it (i.e., I’m an American, Japanese, I’m male, I’m female, I’m from a wealthy family, from an unhealthy family, I’m Catholic, Jewish, Protestant, etc.) All of these are thought-form associations. And these seeming other persons and places surrounding the little personal self are typical part with this construction. Your head is very shaky about this small identity, this small self, this little me. So the little me is shaky, and it appears as though other persons give the little me reality and importance (i.e., you’re my son, my daughter, you’re my boss, you’re a loving father, etc.) and all the various issues that these images appear to be telling this little me appear to be really important. Praise thus seems extremely important (i.e., you’re a person and you’re a great one!).

Praise and acceptance from others SEEM to stabilize this very shaky thing (i.e., you’re a good lover, you’re a good provider, you’re great with the youngsters, you’ve a superb intellect, you’ve this type of heart, you help serve so many other folks, you’re a good team-player, on and on). This facet of the self-concept says that you’re a person and you’ve many of these positive attributes that really allow you to an invaluable and worthy person, that produce you stick out above the crowd. You’re not just anyone—you’re somebody special. The flip side is criticism, which directly reflects the shaky sense of self. Criticism would be: you’re never as great as you believe you’re, you’re not this type of good team player, this type of good provider, so good in bed—everything that are taken as insults to the non-public self-concept). That’s the flip side of the strokes. To the ego self-concept that believes both parties (the positive and negative) of thinking are real, the Holy Spirit is perceived as a good threat, for the Holy Spirit results in the knowledge of forgiveness or the realization that none of the tiny images perceived as separate have any reality.

When the criticism seems to come, the ego attempts a substitution. It thinks, “I don’t need this. I’ll go elsewhere and start other relationships with people who will appreciate my talents and skills and abilities, appreciate my personhood. I’ll avoid those negative influences in the world and those negative people. I’ll find another individual or join friends where folks are like-minded and neglect the remaining world. These new people will require to me and stroke me and praise me.” The attempt at substitution is an endeavor to keep a sense of specialness, a sense of separation, a sense of individuality (a private mind with private thoughts). Those attempts are special love relationships. They seem to strengthen worth and value and to validate personhood. And they give you a false witness for clinging to the ego as identity. To the ego, past associations serve to give personhood some sense of stability and consistency and value. Yet, the Holy Spirit implies that past associations offer nothing of value, for these were produced by the ego to deny the truth of God’s Love.

Holy relationship emphasizes and reflects Content (right-minded thinking) and posseses an awareness of the meaninglessness of form. While the ego’s believed relationships will appear to be specific, yet each one of these will present an opportunity to release the belief in specifics. Divine Mind is Abstract and Universal. Forgiveness is the bridge to the remembrance of Christ and God, Divine Abstraction. Thus the Holy Spirit teaches in A Course in Miracles:

“Once you meet anyone, remember it is just a holy encounter. As you see him you will dsicover yourself. As you treat him you’ll treat yourself. As you consider him you’ll consider yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself. Whenever two Sons of God meet, they are given another chance at salvation. Don’t leave anyone without giving salvation to him and receiving it yourself. For I am always there with you, in remembrance of you.

I do want to ask you in what A Course in Miracles means by Holy Relationship. In a single part of the book it covers “entering the ark” together, and it almost sounds as though you’ll need one other specific person to be able to awaken. Therefore, I think I approach each new person with…

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